Women..

CNN, BBC reporting live. BREAKING NEWS- Women wrath hits the Guinness book of world record for an unmatched and unprecedented number of molestations, rapes, feticides, genocide, and child-marriages. This record, a new benchmark stands to be broken every minute raising its bar to an escalating figure that reflects the paradoxical nature of our society rampantly reflecting the women of the new millennium.

From times immemorial and for reasons not all known, the soul of a woman has been in a battered and shattered state yet she remains a sumptuous trophy!! Desired but denied her grace. If there is something I want to say, it is – ‘Oh!.. My fair lady, fairer than snow, find your goal & fend your soul’.

Can’t you define?

Is woman a symbol of peace, life, dignity, … or a mere ‘mistress’ to her master, hostess to the guests and a housekeeper at home to tender her new-born and prepare them for life. Who is she?.. why doesn’t the debate ever give a conclusive result. She has been equated to Goddess yet treated like cattle, violated, killed, and sold. The ones who may not have experienced such gruesome cruelty also get shudders at the very thought and mention of it as they too remain in an unceasing fright making them unsafe from womb to grave. Even a woman who is publically praised might be personally-n-privately subjugated to physical, mental and psychological torture. The women may be in possession of a status but they rarely escape its tentative and intangible nature where permanency is pertinently poor.

Can’t you refine?

Men and women, distinguished by a just an X-Y chromosome are technically the two complementary chunks of ‘Human race’ yet by the prevalent narrow mind-set they become inertly so different. While the boy gets to inherit and rule the home-boundaries, the girl is destined to be born in one home and then sent to another. There are loads of additional responsibilities apart from reconciling with her fate and mate. Her beauty is admired, brains are used but the credit is stolen, usually. Dealing with dubious and dual distinctions, she is forever weary trying to re-assert herself to those who chose to only ignore.

There have been a plethora of literate and activists’ movements but an ever-increasing number still stumble to the awning gap between what is preached and practised. Her plight might just start within a few days of conception, from talks to termination; it is but a torturous tale. If she manages to be safe in the womb, the world will be her battlefield, where she will have to fight alone.

Can’t you refrain?

Who is to be blamed?.... the women herself. A bright and chirpy girl giving too much importance to male attention, their remarks becoming more important than her marks is the problem in the bud. As it flowers, she surrenders herself to male desires and domination. Only much later, does she cry out sensing terror, her crushed self and ever growing insecurity.

Can’t you reform?

She needs to emphasise and realize her role in society of which she is an integral part. Not only as a homemaker but also during armed-conflict, repatriation, resettlement, reintegration, and reconstruction; she builds and binds Nations. She needs to understand her emotional, psychological and physical self. Sex is biologically determined at birth, but gender is socially determined and it only refers to the roles and responsibilities that are created within a closed frame-work. These roles are nothing but mere expectations, some realistic and some pressurising. They need change with changing time and we have to prepare everyone to learn-unlearn-relearn as we rage a fight against gender bias. She ought to be a full partner in her home, her community, and her society. Also bridge the ever-widening gap between different cultures and communities as they all begin to live alike and chase similar goals.

I do not wish women to have power over men; but over themselves.- Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley

Real power! but how?........... don’t lose hope as I unzip my small bag of advice, not complete not comprehensive but enough for a head-start from where you shall find your way!

Woman don't be the reason for your wrath, pull yourself from the shackles of age-old dogmatic dogging drudgery. You have not seen yourself for eternity. What are you doing to yourself? I may sound prejudiced, but you are the most beautiful creatures in the world with motherhood in-their-womb for universal brotherhood in the world. As mothers, sisters, daughters, colleagues, wives and friends it is tough to imagine life without you? A woman not only trains and teaches the young minds but often fill the world with humour, hope & home. Se, ‘Oh! My pretty woman…. Go and chase ..,.’

Wisdom - it is essentially what is left after you are through with your education. Education itself should never end. Re-invent yourself in a thousand different ways. Your wisdom is yours and can't be stolen or snatched away. Educate yourself, learn skills, network - figure out ways to be economically independent.

Optimism - dream it, dare it and do it. Life lies ahead of you as an unexplored vast land of opportunities.

Manhood - wow that man by being the man yourself. For how many million years will you wait for the male counter part to define & complete you? Take your decision and paint your own portrait.

Ambition - those who look at the sun & sky, reach the stars. Aim and God will help you find the way. Energy will flow behind your targeted aim. Women need to help women and pull them down.

Nature - you have augmented from the womb of mother earth. You represent its shade in your garb & style. Your beauty doesn’t lie in skin or waist; it is deep within and is a reflection of your soul. You are a gift of nature; greet nature with your work and passion culminating a fuller you.

Once you start living LIFE, you will never squander it away. So breathe, chill, relax.... Tell yourself you are beautiful, even if you haven’t won the coveted title. Do your best and only demand for peace and space. Carve out the infinite possibilities you envisage. Your purpose is not to please everyone, it is to offer your best to mother earth and receive a good life in lieu.

There have been many such women on the globe who have topped the charts in all fields, Rani Jhansi, Florence Nightingale, Mother Teresa, Marie Curie, Emily, Helen Keller, Indira Gandhi, P T Usha, J K Rowling, Malala have all braved it out. More of you joining up could easy topple the baseless bias eating the very root of the women. A gender sensitized society in the future is the right dream for our golden future.

Cherish Womanhood!! You be.... Just BE!!